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Why everything you know about happiness is wrong! A lot of people if asked, ”What do they want from life,would answer, Happiness“. We say that because we have an idea from having experienced joy, laughter, liveliness, and satisfaction at some times. And naturally our mind goes to the nicest thing for our future: feeling happy and great.
The idea of feeling great at all times is purely fictional for a simple reason: we get bored of the same things, same feelings, same environments very quickly. If everything was always nice and great, you’d become depressed.
Over the time, we have confused ourselves or been mislead by language in pointing out exactly what we are talking about when we say happiness.
What Is Happiness For You
You see, the definition of happiness alters with the context. For example, one who is working very hard towards a goal, is after reward based happiness, or pride. that cannot be achieved from watching a movie with a happy ending or good music.
That is our way of dealing with the fear of loneliness- and that has nothing to do with reward based happiness.
Then there several other types, for example, happiness people derive from gossiping;
sadistic form of happiness that people get from putting others down insulting and shaming people, manipulating and treating people like puppets, bulling, needlessly sabotaging relationships of others.
And then there is sexual based happiness in various uncommon fetishes, fantasies and so forth. So, happiness as a feeling is a very broad term encapsulating various kinds of pleasure of different natures. This a reason why despite achieved a lot, a family, children, certain people still cannot be happy!
What To Do?
In order to understand how to be happy we need to look at how we think. There are three different ways we react to everything around us.
We live for close connection. Having Facebook friends and Twitter followers and a large network is great, but it lacks the meaning of close connection. Reach out to someone who is important to you. Talk about whatever the hell you want. You don’t have to say anything cheesy or uncomfortable. Just enjoy the conversation and be grateful for that person.
If you think these things are too simple or too stupid to work, then I’d like to ask you this: When was the last time you tried one of them? Do a few and see if they work rather than living like a skeptic and writing things off before you try them.
An optimistic outlook would say something like “I’m concerned about doing well on that test tomorrow, but I’m going to study as well as I can and do my best.” Optimism doesn’t deny the reality of challenges, but it interprets how you approach them differently.
Take short “self-compassion” breaks throughout the day. For example, if you’re really swamped with work you might feel overwhelmed or guilty. Use mindfulness to acknowledge how you’re feeling: “I am feeling stressed right now because I have so much to do.”Next, acknowledge that everyone experiences these feelings from time to time.
“I’m not alone in feeling this. It’s a natural feeling.” Finally, give yourself a quick compassion boost, such as saying something positive to yourself: “I am capable of getting this done”.
It’s easy to feel that someone else is responsible for your fulfillment, but the reality is that it is really your charge. Once you realize that, you have the power to get where you want to go. Stop blaming others or the world, and you’ll find your answers much sooner.